Why the World Needs Fathers/Father Figures

Guys, if you had to pick three to five other men who together best represent your values, skills, general personality, and parenting style, who would they be? You can’t pick people you don’t know. (Sorry, if you had already concluded that George Clooney is like your long lost twin, you’re out of luck).

Three days ago, I read a Time magazine column about a father who was dying of cancer. Bruce Feiler wanted to answer the same question and ask his picks to serve as father figures to his 3-year-old twin daughters.

He knew, without him, his daughters would suffer a major void in their lives. And so he formed The Council of Dads and likened asking for their involvement in his girls’ lives to be similar to a marriage proposal.

The conversations defy the image of awkward men allergic to sentiment. Cancer was “a passport to intimacy”; it drove him to tell his friends why they mattered, ask them to be more involved in his life and particularly in his daughters’”

Bottom line, children need their dads. Feiler knew it. You know it too.

Most of us don’t have to face this type of decision: who could “fill in” for us? But the article does serve as an important reminder of men’s crucial role.

Don’t let anyone tell you different.

  • The National Center for Educational Statistics reported that when fathers are involved in their children’s education, the kids were more likely to get As, enjoy school, and participate in extracurricular activities.
  • Parenting expert Kyle Pruett concluded that kids with engaged fathers demonstrate “a greater ability to take initiative and evidence self-control.” When these boys grew up, they were more likely to be good dads themselves.
  • One study in Germany showed that dads who played with their two year olds in sensitive, supportive, and challenging ways had stronger relationships with the same kids between the ages of 10 and 16.

Cherish your role and have a Happy Father’s Day!

Heather

(Source: http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1987596,00.html#ixzz0nebiWon1, http://www.fatherhood.org/fatherfacts.htm

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